Red flags for dating a loser
He rarely returns your calls and it feels like you are always chasing him trying to pin him down.
However he gives you mixed messages to keep you hanging around and explains his discourteous behaviour as “just his way”.
Even his friends admit that they can’t depend on him as Mr Neglect always takes things as they come and never plans things too far ahead.
He complains that his past girlfriends were too uptight, too controlling or wanted too much from the relationship.
If you’ve known your significant other for a year or longer and they are exactly the same as they day you met them, run. Someone primarily interested in their own agenda (and fitting you into it) will trounce on your spirit, suffocate your soul, and leave you lonely when you long for intimacy.
If you only know that “she was psycho” or that “he had issues,” then they aren’t ready to move on.I likely knew how to spot a loser back then, but refused to see it. I wrongly assumed God would bless my choice, no matter what. Sure, they may really believe, but if they do, they are extremely immature and not ready to be part of a stable Christian marriage yet.Save yourself a ton of grief and look for someone whose faith is visible and fruit is easy to assess. The number one trait you should look for in a spouse is someone who is willing to learn, change and grow.A few weeks ago, I sat in the back at a beautiful outdoor wedding.I listened to my pastor husband talk about love, honor and submission. He clarified how submission doesn’t mean abuse and happens in a context where the man is submitted to Jesus. If you didn’t know them, by observing their life would you say, “Wow, that person loves and follows Jesus!
If you climbed Ben Nevis then he has climbed Mount Everest… Some men (and some women for that matter) find it difficult to remain faithful.