Nonchalance in dating
Feminism has done a lot of good–for you, me, all the women you know, and all the women you’ll never meet–as far as social issues, birth control, employment, and your right to do anything and be a woman at the same time. Sure, we talked about them, but they were more like attractions than people I had relationships with. But there’s one area where feminism has not served me well. In the movies, TV shows, general cultural messages, men were by and large aggressive, incorrigible boors. I wore a uniform, no makeup, and had not an ounce of concern for boys, as they were not on my radar, and not deemed central to my life in any real way.Myrow works with clients to help them recognize precisely what they’re doing online, dating-wise, and to help them learn to treat the whole process in a healthier way.
…And Why This Became a Problem Flash forward to adulthood and you can imagine how this might set me up with a bit of a handicap. Because, having been raised in the 80s, I came of age with the strong impression that men were basically up to no good. Training grounds for the “men not required” mentality. Men Not Required This was easy for me to believe because I went to an all-girls’ private and progressive catholic high school.Little did I know the inability to accept anything from a man–attention, love, a jacket–would become a bigger problem.I guarded my virginity jealously, well into college, up until the bitter end, in fact.