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I grew up idolising women like Sarah Connor, Ripley from Aliens and, Goddamnit, even Mary Poppins.
Exposure to such strong female role models and, more notably, my own fiercely intelligent and academically accomplished mother, charged me with the most profound yearning to have a more deliberate hand in my future.
I often liken the South Indian approach to dating to Georgian Britain. It is no wonder then that, when it comes to the world of dating, the Modern Muslim is left rather flummoxed.
It’s all about reputation and one’s family and parental interference is a welcome and common occurrence. As much as I do love the old country, demure wafty fan way of doing things, I was always a headstrong little girl.
Whether you are first- or second generation British or just have traditional parents, guess what?
I can identify with Pakistani culture as well as the traditions of the religion I was raised in but; I do enjoy a good whiskey and used to smoke like a chimney.
I collect really rubbish songs on vinyl like Bruce Willis’ timeless classic “Respect Yourself”, I love to knit, I make a killer steak and kidney pie and, like many other women in the UK, karaoke bars are my secret shame.
As Muslims, we don’t tend to come from a dating culture so, if you are quite liberal and want to explore western conventions whilst still respecting your roots, there isn’t really a right and wrong here.
The most important thing to hold on to is knowing who you are, what you believe in and what you want.
Dating does not have to mean sleeping around, nor does it mean you are going to Hell for exploring your options.