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(A middle-class family can easily spend 0,000 these days on a dowry in India.) Much savvier in the ways of his new country, my father laughed it off. ” Fulfilling his parental duty, my father placed matrimonial ads for me every couple of years during my twenties in such immigrant newspapers as India Abroad.
They read something like, “Match for Jain girl, Harvard-educated journalist, 25, fair, slim.” I took it as a personal victory that they didn’t include the famous Indian misnomer “homely” to mean domestically inclined.
(This is only a little shocking, since my last boyfriend was a Spanish chef who got me addicted to chorizo.
Once, I was horrified to discover, he’d put a skinned rabbit in my freezer.) This desultory casting around to see what was out there has become much more urgent now that I’m in my thirties, and in their quest, my parents have discovered a dizzying array of Websites: shaadi.com, indiamatrimony.com, etc.
There are many happy unions in the pantheon of Hindu gods—Shiva and Parvati, Krishna and Radha.
At a recent dinner party, when I was trying to explain how single-minded Indian parents can be, my friend Jaidev jumped to the rescue. ’” The pressure on me to find a husband started very early.
I lodged my protest against him and arranged marriage by getting ragingly intoxicated and blowing smoke rings in his face. Maybe, but I didn’t want to be marriageable back then. But for Indians, there’s no way to escape thinking about marriage, eventually.
It wouldn’t be a stretch to say that shaadi, the word for marriage in many Indian languages, is the first word a child understands after mummy and papa.
To an Indian, marriage is a matter of karmic destiny.
My father recalls my mother’s greatest concern, after learning that I hadn’t been gravely injured: “What boy will marry her when he finds out?
” she cried, begging my father to never mention my broken arm—from which I’ve enjoyed a full recovery—to prospective suitors out of fear my dowry would be prohibitively higher.
Before long, though, I gathered that he was of a type: someone who prided himself on being modern and open-minded but who in fact had horribly crusty notions passed down from his Indian parents.