Internet dating and exclusivity
I've never done it, but I know from my friend that does that she often has more than one date lined up, or more than one virtual conversation going on at any one time.
It wouldn't occur to me to have the conversation with someone I'd met through real life, but it would with someone on a dating site. I know a lot of people who do internet dating, and I have done so myself in the past.
If you go out on dates with someone, talk to them about what's going on in their life etc and they thought it was agreed and accepted that they were seeing other people surely it would come up in conversation? asking them how their week's been, what plans they have for the weekend - The other dates would naturally be mentioned, wouldn't they?
I do think it's okay (but not that common) to date multiple people as long as you are upfront and honest from the outset .when we talked a little while ago, you said we’re exclusive… ” (I would listen for if their answer is a clear “yes” or if it’s some vague, weird, wishy-washy response…in which case, I would interpret that as a not-yes and assume that you are definitely NOT exclusive and assume he is indeed acting accordingly…) If he says yes, I would go on to say: “OK, good, that’s what I thought. we live in a time where everyone can see everything that’s going on online with people.So not long term, just ensuring they meet the most people possible. But I truly have never known anyone who has done so - where are they meeting all these people? I know this because I ask in the office, when there are fledgling relationships.I think finding one person to go on a date with is an accomplishment. Without fail, aged between 22 and 38 they have all looked at me like I'm barking mad or been slightly offended in case I've called them sluts.
It might last a few more dates, or it might go on to be a long term relationship, but for that time, we were 'exclusive' and I would have been mightily shocked and pissed off if I found out otherwise. If other people do it, then fair enough but it's something I just can't bring myself to do.