So true love always expresses itself as obedience to Christ and service to others.In contrast to that, the focus of defective dating is usually gratifying self and going against God’s commands concerning righteousness and purity in our lives.Friendship can be described as two people walking side by side toward a common goal or interest.Typically dating tends to focus on being a couple with the goal of intimacy.Dating in the United States and most other developed countries is in serious trouble.Don’t misunderstand—the practice of dating is very much alive.It often mistakes a physical relationship for love.A later chapter talks about looking up “love” in God’s dictionary to see what it should entail.
As dating practices from the 1960s on became more focused on physical intimacy before marriage, authors familiar with Scripture began to draw attention to the fact that modern dating practices were going against God’s Word.
The rest of the book focuses on how to avoid such negative effects and, beginning with chapter 4, it focuses on godly love.
Harris accurately points out that Christ said if we love Him, we will obey Him.
Joshua Harris grabbed a lot of attention with his best-selling book about kissing dating good-bye, which was published in 1997.
In 2000 he wrote a sequel book after his courtship and marriage, titled is an honest, romantic, and refreshingly biblical look at relationships.
It’s about dating with a purpose.” So despite what might appear to be a prejudice against any kind of dating by the first book’s title, the book is really about avoiding the of dating. The first chapter deals with the importance of doing what is good, not just doing whatever good.