Dating customs in latin america
Again, I expected her to get a little uncomfortable, but, to my surprise, she boldly began sharing her opinions on this subject as thought she had discussed exactly this topic countless times before. It’s the fact that I wanted to genuinely flirt—flirt without all the politically correct bullshit on subjects that have already been discussed ad naseum—but I couldn’t.
I simply had no other choice but Flirting is sensual, emotional and imaginative.
Southern European cultures have pretty tough and “masculine” women; the stereotypical traditional Italian wife, for example, is very “tough” and “ball-busting” as demonstrated by her ability to run the house hold and even control her tough Italian husband. I wanted to put American dating under the microscope and study it like a scientist who studies microorganisms in his science lab.
The explanation that American women are “masculine” was way too simplistic and not good enough. On my recent trip to New York, I had some free time and decided to use it go out to bars and meet women. So, I forced myself to forget everything that I I knew about American women and dating in order to learn and relearn everything from the ground up.
My dilemma was that I could never rationally understand why dating is so confusing and complicated in America.
After mutual interest is established, the next step is to immediately move onto more interesting and physical things. In America, you don’t get out of this discussion phase. It requires a certain level of confidence and self-esteem. On the other hand, a discussion about generally accepted things isn’t risky and therefore doesn’t require much confidence.This naturally leads to people wanting to endlessly discuss all kinds of topics (how many times have you heard the pseudo-expression “let’s keep an open dialogue”? And that opens the door for more and more discussions. I first eased into “safe” and boring topics like work and travel.One night I had a date with a cute 29-year-old American girl. At some point we began talking about dating and she told me a story about her feminist friend who’s doing a Ph D on “cat calling.” I used that opportunity to ease further into other sexual topics. We were sitting across from each other, drinking beers and openly discussing various sexual topics.There’s a huge difference between flirting and merely discussing sexual topics. She took the discussion seriously as though it was some kind of college debate.And if there’s one thing I hate it’s talking about sex with someone on such a politically correct level that it feels like we’re discussing America’s foreign policy. Of course I would’ve preferred flirting, but that just wasn’t an option.
One of the most popular explanations is that the American women are somehow “masculine,” but the meaning of the word is rather foggy.