Dating a codependent women Asia adullt cam
” Being a Codependent, I did NOT want to get into an argument right here on the beach about this. Let’s just lay down and enjoy ourselves.” But it was too late.
It’s a beautiful day and I had these expectations that we were going to enjoy ourselves on our vacation and not let any issues present themselves. My cards were already shown before I even opened my mouth.
It’s about what I believe to be one of the most common mistakes people make in a relationship.
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Let me tell you a story from years ago when I was dating a BPD girl… Me and my ex took a vacation to a really nice island beach. This side of the island where we were staying had literally no surf at all. The girl I was dating (who is a pretty looking lady if I don’t say so myself) wanted to run around in the water and enjoy herself. I’m going to hang out here on the towel and enjoy the sun. Nothing harmful, just some guys on vacation wanting to have fun and meet people. They had every right to swim towards my girl and talk to her.
I was feeling super awesome in my new blue palm tree pattern board shorts. Board shorts are the best because you can wear them pretty much anywhere. Well, not even 5 minutes go by and there are already a group of guys making their way over to my girl in the water (guys think they’re so sly). But my Codependent mind at the time didn’t like that.
They take all the abuse on the chin and look the other way. Nowhere in anything I teach do I tell people that you just delete your old behaviors and mentality. It’s responsible for your current life situation, believe it or not.
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If she decides to cheat on you and run off with one of these boys, she made that decision a looooong time ago. When you learn to accept this truth, life actually becomes a lot less stressful. The sooner you can let go of control and allow the world to work in mysterious ways, the sooner you can really love and appreciate living. Often you hear people saying they feel powerless and out of control in their relationships. Anyway, I have an entire course about this stuff called Overcoming Codependency that’s available to members of my Relationship Academy.
The Codependent lives a very stressful life because he or she is constantly trying to control situations in the relationship. Well, if you want that power back, it all starts with you learning to let go of this control. If this is something that interests you, then just click here to learn more about it. I hope you got value out of this article regardless.
The difference between a codependent relationship and a healthy one is the same as the difference between compromise and giving up on yourself.
In a healthy relationship, you are able to find a resolution to your differences that works for both of you.
And this is without one person consistently giving up on their needs or desires.