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Despite the fact that we were on our third date, he didn’t even acknowledge my existence as I stood there a couple feet from him while he talked to his friend.His silence told me exactly how much I meant to him.These are men who find me attractive, but are initially hesitant because of my trans-ness.With these men, I went on dates in public at the movies, or a chill restaurant, and I was viewed as more than a new sexual experience—but I don’t think I was seen as potential relationship material either. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates. After a month, he reached out to me saying he couldn’t be with me because I am transgender.Another guy made sure even his social media presence wasn’t linked to mine.He lied about not having an Instagram account, then when I “came across it” and liked one of his pictures in spite, he blocked me.As I click, message and swipe through the world of online dating, I’ve quickly learned that there are at least three different types of guys: those who fetishize trans women, those who are curious but cautious, and those who simply don’t read.Unfortunately, these labels don’t appear on their profiles.
Red flags like continually postponing dates and constantly asking, “When are you getting the surgery?Washboard-Abs-No-Face and unsolicited dick pics that most women, unfortunately, receive. Right as a transgender woman (I was born male, but identify and present as female) adds a whole new dimension to digital dating.Since transitioning in I haven’t reacted positively to guys who hit on me in person because I haven’t mastered the art of telling them that we have “the same parts.” For the past three years, Tinder has been my gateway into online dating as a transgender woman.While most people only consider the profile pic before swiping right or left, for me, the text on my profile is crucial.Even since Tinder introduced more genders to choose from than just the binary male and female, it doesn’t show your gender on the swiping screen.
He was concerned about how his sexuality would “change.” I had another similar experience on a first date where a man greeted me, hugged me, then said he left something in his car.